Why is it that we (some, but not all) are so quickly to define and judge an individual by their job, status or educational background? We judge a person who makes the choice to sacrifice time, energy and sanity to the proper care and raising of our children. Apparently when you make that choice to stay at home with your children your intelligence level plummets. I would like to think that I have become more brilliant, make better choices and can multi-task like a pro simply from staying at home. I don't know about anyone else but in college I never learned how to hold a baby with one hand, flip an egg with the other all while talking on the phone to the pediatrician. Just because we have put our careers, education and life on hold while we raise our children doesn't make us idiots. When we aren't coloring with crayons, making grilled cheese or cleaning pee off of the floor we frequently engage in activities that do better ourselves and the people around us. That or we are passed out from exhaustion on the floor.
My favorite question is, "So what do you do all day?" I often have to restrain myself from socking them in jaw or pulling out a piece of paper and giving them a bulleted 123 point list of what EXACTLY we do all day. I have many friends who now stay at home with their children who have Masters or are working on second degrees or were teachers, nurses, accountants, dietitians you name it, and very educated and strong women. Didn't your mother always tell you that you can't judge a book by it's cover? So just because a person has decided to stay at home and raise their children doesn't mean they can't carry on a lively conversation about current events, pro football teams and kick your butt in Trivial Pursuit. Of course our jobs are so easy though, right? We sit around all day watching Oprah and eating bon bons.
It also goes for mothers who chose to work or have to work. They are often judged if the don't stay at home with their children, becoming somehow unloving and unable to nurture. It just goes to show that your family, no matter what occupational path you chose to follow, will always be under fire. You are no less of a woman if you chose to stay at home with your children, work outside the home or even have children at all.
I may not know what day it is and venture out in spandex and a sweatshirt, but I certainly am able to hold my own in an intelligent conversation. I am certain that I have the most amazing and meaningful job in the world right now and can't imagine doing anything else. Just don't ask me to spell.....we might have a problem.